Thursday, February 26, 2009

Platonic Activity Partners?

Hello my faithful readers:

It's Thursday and this week has been low key so far for me. I had a nice dinner with some of my old A&E co-workers K&M. It has been a long time since we got to talk with either of them at any length (I've been at my current job for almost two years now). I'm really looking forward to this weekend because I'll get the chance to catch up with some of my friends and have a 2nd date with The E-Card Stalker (as long as I can shake the cold I seem to be getting).

My friend Brookey broke the news to me that the Youngun (mentioned in a previous blog) has a girlfriend or at least some girl that he wanted to make his Valentine this year. Brookey and I met him at my party a few weeks ago and they realized they know each other from the gym. Apparently he texts her too and thinks that we're all friends (he even told her that I went to Comic Con-- go figure)! I was just surprised that I came up in their conversation with each other, but he never mentioned to me that he was keeping in touch with Brookey.

I haven't talked much about Youngun since the time we met, but we had a few phone conversations and he texts me almost like clockwork every other day or so. For example last night I received this text from him " Hey what's up miss...hope all is well with ya." Sometimes he texts me asking what I'm doing and despite my hatred for texting full conversations I respond to his texts. He texts and calls because he needs someone to help him get put on and realizing that now, I guess I can't knock his hustle, we did meet at a networking party for those working in the TV industry.

Without realizing it I've stumbled into new territory for me --a category of friends called Platonic Activity Partners. For me this is just another way to say I've been put into the FRIEND ZONE. For men this is normally the kiss of death when they realize that a woman has put them into this category if they are trying to pursue her. Normally I'm the one to put men into the friend zone so it was a little unsettling for me to realize that I had been put into the friend zone. Now I've never been one of those women who has a problem being platonic with my male friends and actually I'm more comfortable with men than I am with women anyway (most of my closest friends are men), but I know that many people (mostly men) feel that men and women can't be just friends in the platonic sense.

Realizing that I was the Youngun's new Platonic Activity Partner also made me realize that my radar is a little bit off as to realizing when men are interested in me for a relationship. At this point I'm not sure I can trust my own interpretations of the actions of the men I come into contact with, because my radar seems to be off quite a bit recently. Although it's disconcerting I think this is a good thing for me, because I'll be more cautious and ask more questions moving forward. How many of you have stumbled into the Platonic Activity Partners category without realizing it?

I hope that you all enjoy the rest of your week! I highly recommend you go outside today if you're living in NYC because our weather is supposed to hit at least 50 today! I know that I'm planning to go outside and find a little sunshine and get some fresh air.


Georgia Peach


Anonymous said...

I don't believe that you are in the "Platonic Activity Partner" ( <--love this word!). What i do believe is that you have been put in the "in case of emergency, break glass" box. Basically, if you were a "friend", he wouldn't feel funny about telling you himself about his "other friend". By the time you decide that you are not interested at all, it will be too late for him (but he probably doesnt know that).

Brooke said...

Well, in my convos with youngin, he keeps that a secret. I asked him about his Valentine's Day plans, he didn't offer them. I'm a very upfront, curious, inquisitive person. He seemed hesitant to tell me about ole girl, but he did. But he's the type to IM you as soon as you sign on or text you everyday just to "check in." I can't knock his hustle, but he's good at "networking." He has a hustle even for the gym (that we can discuss offline). And don't sleep on what he does and does not know...jus sayin'.

Georgia Peach said...

LOL- interesting perspectives ladies and it's good to know that he's at least being a little secretive about it. Guess I'll just have to grow a pair moving forward and ask the tough questions.