Hello my faithful readers:
I can't believe how quickly the month of March has gone. It's almost April - can you believe it?!? Truly I hope that April will be a month of renewal and opportunity for everyone; because I simply don't want to hear anymore bad news. While I know that many of you are going through your own personal struggles I really hope that you can hang on just a little while longer. Recently I re-connected at a networking event with someone I worked with a few years ago. We had a meeting a week later where I gave her a few names and phone numbers of people I thought she should meet with for business opportunities and networking purposes. Yesterday she called just to say "thank you" and that gave me the boost I needed to make it through the rest of my day yesterday. It's little things like this that help to keep me hopeful that things will indeed get better.
Yesterday was full of surprise phone calls and text messages; two blasts from the (recent) past, Mystervee and Youngun both called/texted me yesterday. Although Youngun has been less frequent with his contact, he has shown more interest in texting me (for a job) than Mystervee. Youngun has now taken to texting me every week and a half or so and sometimes I respond, sometimes I don't. Yesterday I decided to entertain his texts and our text conversation ended with his last text to me "It's ok...still tryin to make it. I'm also looking for a better job now too." This is the second time he's mentioned this in a text conversation with me and I suppose I should just tell him that if he's looking for a job he should just e-mail me with his resume or even give me a call to discuss what he's looking for...I will blame his ignorance on the right way to network for a job on his youth and keep it moving.
Mystervee's call interrupted my response to Youngun's final text; Almost immediately after not picking up his call, I got a text with his phone number in it (no voicemail message). I thought about calling him back, but I realized that there really isn't any reason for me to speak to him. I know what he's interested in and although some of you may disagree with me, I felt his lack of respect for me the first time around was enough for me. Ignoring that call and not calling him back was probably one of the HARDEST things I've done in a long time. Why? Because like most women I wanted to get some sort of closure on our situation and find out why he treated me like a $5 hooker. Although I'm curious about WHY he called me, I'm not curious enough to be distracted from finding the right man for me. I know that talking to him would be a waste of my time and if I'm true to what I have set out to do, I need to stay focused on my goal.
I think it's funny that people come out of the woodwork just when you thought you'd put them out of your mind. Hopefully with a little focus, common sense and self preservation, I'll stop repeating some of the mistakes I've made in past relationships. I believe these distractions pop up to test whether or not you're ready for the real thing. I hope that I passed this particular "distraction test" so that I can move on to the right situation for me.
Thanks for always giving me good feedback and I hope that you enjoy what you're reading here. I love hearing from you and I hope that you'll become a follower or comment (I don't bite, even if we have differing opinions). Enjoy your Thursday - it's almost the weekend! YEAHHHHH!
Mwuah,
Georgia Peach
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Thursday, March 26, 2009
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Platonic Activity Partners?
Hello my faithful readers:
It's Thursday and this week has been low key so far for me. I had a nice dinner with some of my old A&E co-workers K&M. It has been a long time since we got to talk with either of them at any length (I've been at my current job for almost two years now). I'm really looking forward to this weekend because I'll get the chance to catch up with some of my friends and have a 2nd date with The E-Card Stalker (as long as I can shake the cold I seem to be getting).
My friend Brookey broke the news to me that the Youngun (mentioned in a previous blog) has a girlfriend or at least some girl that he wanted to make his Valentine this year. Brookey and I met him at my party a few weeks ago and they realized they know each other from the gym. Apparently he texts her too and thinks that we're all friends (he even told her that I went to Comic Con-- go figure)! I was just surprised that I came up in their conversation with each other, but he never mentioned to me that he was keeping in touch with Brookey.
I haven't talked much about Youngun since the time we met, but we had a few phone conversations and he texts me almost like clockwork every other day or so. For example last night I received this text from him " Hey what's up miss...hope all is well with ya." Sometimes he texts me asking what I'm doing and despite my hatred for texting full conversations I respond to his texts. He texts and calls because he needs someone to help him get put on and realizing that now, I guess I can't knock his hustle, we did meet at a networking party for those working in the TV industry.
Without realizing it I've stumbled into new territory for me --a category of friends called Platonic Activity Partners. For me this is just another way to say I've been put into the FRIEND ZONE. For men this is normally the kiss of death when they realize that a woman has put them into this category if they are trying to pursue her. Normally I'm the one to put men into the friend zone so it was a little unsettling for me to realize that I had been put into the friend zone. Now I've never been one of those women who has a problem being platonic with my male friends and actually I'm more comfortable with men than I am with women anyway (most of my closest friends are men), but I know that many people (mostly men) feel that men and women can't be just friends in the platonic sense.
Realizing that I was the Youngun's new Platonic Activity Partner also made me realize that my radar is a little bit off as to realizing when men are interested in me for a relationship. At this point I'm not sure I can trust my own interpretations of the actions of the men I come into contact with, because my radar seems to be off quite a bit recently. Although it's disconcerting I think this is a good thing for me, because I'll be more cautious and ask more questions moving forward. How many of you have stumbled into the Platonic Activity Partners category without realizing it?
I hope that you all enjoy the rest of your week! I highly recommend you go outside today if you're living in NYC because our weather is supposed to hit at least 50 today! I know that I'm planning to go outside and find a little sunshine and get some fresh air.
Mwuah,
Georgia Peach
It's Thursday and this week has been low key so far for me. I had a nice dinner with some of my old A&E co-workers K&M. It has been a long time since we got to talk with either of them at any length (I've been at my current job for almost two years now). I'm really looking forward to this weekend because I'll get the chance to catch up with some of my friends and have a 2nd date with The E-Card Stalker (as long as I can shake the cold I seem to be getting).
My friend Brookey broke the news to me that the Youngun (mentioned in a previous blog) has a girlfriend or at least some girl that he wanted to make his Valentine this year. Brookey and I met him at my party a few weeks ago and they realized they know each other from the gym. Apparently he texts her too and thinks that we're all friends (he even told her that I went to Comic Con-- go figure)! I was just surprised that I came up in their conversation with each other, but he never mentioned to me that he was keeping in touch with Brookey.
I haven't talked much about Youngun since the time we met, but we had a few phone conversations and he texts me almost like clockwork every other day or so. For example last night I received this text from him " Hey what's up miss...hope all is well with ya." Sometimes he texts me asking what I'm doing and despite my hatred for texting full conversations I respond to his texts. He texts and calls because he needs someone to help him get put on and realizing that now, I guess I can't knock his hustle, we did meet at a networking party for those working in the TV industry.
Without realizing it I've stumbled into new territory for me --a category of friends called Platonic Activity Partners. For me this is just another way to say I've been put into the FRIEND ZONE. For men this is normally the kiss of death when they realize that a woman has put them into this category if they are trying to pursue her. Normally I'm the one to put men into the friend zone so it was a little unsettling for me to realize that I had been put into the friend zone. Now I've never been one of those women who has a problem being platonic with my male friends and actually I'm more comfortable with men than I am with women anyway (most of my closest friends are men), but I know that many people (mostly men) feel that men and women can't be just friends in the platonic sense.
Realizing that I was the Youngun's new Platonic Activity Partner also made me realize that my radar is a little bit off as to realizing when men are interested in me for a relationship. At this point I'm not sure I can trust my own interpretations of the actions of the men I come into contact with, because my radar seems to be off quite a bit recently. Although it's disconcerting I think this is a good thing for me, because I'll be more cautious and ask more questions moving forward. How many of you have stumbled into the Platonic Activity Partners category without realizing it?
I hope that you all enjoy the rest of your week! I highly recommend you go outside today if you're living in NYC because our weather is supposed to hit at least 50 today! I know that I'm planning to go outside and find a little sunshine and get some fresh air.
Mwuah,
Georgia Peach
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
I hate texting
Hello Faithful Readers:
Hope that you're all enjoying this fine Tuesday morning. I have to say that you guys are some of the most supportive people I've ever met. Thanks for all of the advice and support you have given me along the way and here's where I encourage you all to keep it coming, because I LOVE hearing from you.
Last night I went out with one of my co-workers, Ms. Vega, to a lovely networking event for a group called Supernodes at a very sexy wine bar called CLO in the Time Warner Center. It was a futuristic experience and eventually I'd like to go back under less crowded circumstances. I felt like I was at my high school reunion because I saw a bunch of my old co-workers from IDJ and it was great seeing that everyone is doing so well now.
One of the people I met, a great guy named T, and I ended up getting into a discussion about women and their relationships with men. I'm not sure how we even got on the subject so quickly, but he said that women need to tell men what it is they want, simply because men aren't mind-readers and all women are different. One thing he said really resonated with me "Women always have it easier because with men if you get the general [owners] manual for a man, you basically have an understanding of how to deal with most men. With women each one requires a different 300 page [owners] manual. I'd never really thought of myself or any of my female friends in these terms and it made me realize that perhaps he's on to something. I know that I'm definitely like any of my friends when it comes to dating and relationships.
T also brought up something last night that I had been complaining about for a while now. He said that texting has made dating life much easier for men. Men can send a mass text messages to all of their girls and it makes us ladies feel our guy is actually thinking about us. Texting also offers the guys the opportunity to get assistance from their boys on what to say in the text. Plus texting allows us all to take our time in responding versus a phone or in person conversation.
His comments caused me to think about my own current situation. Last Friday the day after our first coffee date Mystervee texted me to say he enjoyed the meeting. Then he continued to hold a full text conversation until after a few exchanges it ended. I complained to my friend Digi Jay and he gave me a piece of advice that blew my mind. Quite simply he said to text MV with the following message: CALL ME. This advice was mind boggling for me, because as outspoken as I normally am, I'd never even considered saying something about my issues with texting. Now I probably should explain that my biggest issue with texting is more about having a full on conversation via text. I don't mind if you use it to pass along quick information or confirm a meeting time or something along those lines, but if your text requires a several text message back and forth exchange; personally I'd prefer it if you just picked up the phone to call me. So I suffered through lots of texting during the weekend and finally when we were talking [on the phone] last night I finally told him that I hated texting and preferred to have conversations on the phone if we couldn't see each other.
You know what? I actually felt much better after I got that off my chest. Now we'll see what happens with MV after my comment, I'm hoping he was listening and not just hearing what I said. I have a feeling that we'll be good friends at the end of our experience if nothing else, but I won't be nearly as afraid to say what I mean with any of the guys I date. Now I just have to break all of my new friends of their texting habits. Yep the Youngun is also a big text abuser!
Mwuah,
Georgia Peach
Hope that you're all enjoying this fine Tuesday morning. I have to say that you guys are some of the most supportive people I've ever met. Thanks for all of the advice and support you have given me along the way and here's where I encourage you all to keep it coming, because I LOVE hearing from you.
Last night I went out with one of my co-workers, Ms. Vega, to a lovely networking event for a group called Supernodes at a very sexy wine bar called CLO in the Time Warner Center. It was a futuristic experience and eventually I'd like to go back under less crowded circumstances. I felt like I was at my high school reunion because I saw a bunch of my old co-workers from IDJ and it was great seeing that everyone is doing so well now.
One of the people I met, a great guy named T, and I ended up getting into a discussion about women and their relationships with men. I'm not sure how we even got on the subject so quickly, but he said that women need to tell men what it is they want, simply because men aren't mind-readers and all women are different. One thing he said really resonated with me "Women always have it easier because with men if you get the general [owners] manual for a man, you basically have an understanding of how to deal with most men. With women each one requires a different 300 page [owners] manual. I'd never really thought of myself or any of my female friends in these terms and it made me realize that perhaps he's on to something. I know that I'm definitely like any of my friends when it comes to dating and relationships.
T also brought up something last night that I had been complaining about for a while now. He said that texting has made dating life much easier for men. Men can send a mass text messages to all of their girls and it makes us ladies feel our guy is actually thinking about us. Texting also offers the guys the opportunity to get assistance from their boys on what to say in the text. Plus texting allows us all to take our time in responding versus a phone or in person conversation.
His comments caused me to think about my own current situation. Last Friday the day after our first coffee date Mystervee texted me to say he enjoyed the meeting. Then he continued to hold a full text conversation until after a few exchanges it ended. I complained to my friend Digi Jay and he gave me a piece of advice that blew my mind. Quite simply he said to text MV with the following message: CALL ME. This advice was mind boggling for me, because as outspoken as I normally am, I'd never even considered saying something about my issues with texting. Now I probably should explain that my biggest issue with texting is more about having a full on conversation via text. I don't mind if you use it to pass along quick information or confirm a meeting time or something along those lines, but if your text requires a several text message back and forth exchange; personally I'd prefer it if you just picked up the phone to call me. So I suffered through lots of texting during the weekend and finally when we were talking [on the phone] last night I finally told him that I hated texting and preferred to have conversations on the phone if we couldn't see each other.
You know what? I actually felt much better after I got that off my chest. Now we'll see what happens with MV after my comment, I'm hoping he was listening and not just hearing what I said. I have a feeling that we'll be good friends at the end of our experience if nothing else, but I won't be nearly as afraid to say what I mean with any of the guys I date. Now I just have to break all of my new friends of their texting habits. Yep the Youngun is also a big text abuser!
Mwuah,
Georgia Peach
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