Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Isn't it ironic...

Hello my faithful readers:

It's been waaaaaaaaaaaaaay too long since I've written here. I have to say as far as my dating life is concerned I simply have ignored it completely. Lately all I can think about is my huge running to-do list which includes my visa application (lengthy process folks!), wrapping up my final big project at work (Bonnaroo happening all next week) and packing/selling the 9 years of accumulated life here in NYC (did I mention I'm a bit of a pack rat?!?!). I type this all as I'm thinking about my ever growing list of the dozen other things I need to accomplish in the next day or two.

What has been going on for me in the dating world? Well... most recently I had been e-mailing with Bachelor #1 and I'd even gotten to the point where we'd exchanged numbers. He called me Memorial Weekend and I never called him back. I know totally rude of me right? I hated doing that, but I realized I just don't have the energy, nor the time to really truly focus on getting a new friendship started. I barely have time lately to keep up with the few friends I already have! Many of you haven't seen me in several months, simply because I'm running around crossing things off my to-do list.

That very next week, all within a couple of days of each other I received e-mails from 3 different men whom I'd dated or corresponded with at some point in the past couple of years (Mr. Ex was one of them) and the emails made me wonder - why now? I thought I'd closed the door on all of those friendships and seeing those e-mails for me was like having a big fancy picnic (MY BIG FANCY PICNIC) ruined by ants showing up and walking all over my food. My reactions to the notes ranged from"who is this?" to "slightly guilty because the tone of his e-mail seemed so delusional (to me)."

Now none of these men had any idea that they would all contact me within days of each other, but in situations like this one I am always reminded of the Alanis Morrisette song "Ironic." Hearing from a few old flames in the span of a week (ok I might be exaggerating by labeling them old flames) almost never happens (for me). Let's be real. Who am I kidding here? I'm not hearing from much of anyone lately. Personally I found getting all of these notes just as I was starting to mentally get "closure" on "life in NYC" a little unsettling. I have to admit that hearing from them all put me in a little bit of a funk for a few days (ok it was really a full week and a half), because I was reminded of all of my dating disappointments. I (always) need to believe that there has to be some higher purpose, but perhaps the purpose is just to toughen me up for the next leg of my journey. OR it could be that I'm reading too much into this and I just need to remained focused on the goal (getting ready for school in the fall).

I'm still determining the fate of my blog, because as much as I love sharing my dating journey with you all; I'm embarking on a different journey now and this means less activity on this blog (which has been dedicated to chronicling my dating adventures). Things are busy for me at work (at least until June 15th when I return from Bonnaroo) and I have less time to focus on coming up with interesting topics related to my dating life. You might not hear from me for a while, but I promise that I'll try to keep you posted on any possible dating adventures I have while abroad. Finding love is still a (big) priority for me, but for the duration of my MBA program (1 year) it won't be my primary focus.

Thanks for all of the love and support over the past couple of months. I really appreciate all of the advice, encouragement and love you guys have shown. I plan on enjoying my last month couple of months here in NYC. For those of you who don't live here there is NOTHING like NYC in the spring/summer. I love it! I hope that you have a wonderful summer too!


Georgia Peach


Latinegro said...

I have always enjoyed your blog. I think that as you embark on this new journey in life, you miught find other things to share than just dating. I am ok with reading that!

I want to thank you for your support as well. You have always provided the insight I need.

Brooke said...

Glee, I can't tell you how excited I am for you. I think what you're doing is amazing, and brave. It takes alot to break out of your comfort zone and broaden your horizons. Who knows what lies ahead for you, but it'll be wonderful no matter what it is.

I'm with Ant...I can read about whatever is going on in your life - it'll be our way of keeping up with each other. While I realize finding love is a major priority in your life, there are so many other things out there that give our life meaning. And you'll find joy in all of them. I look forward to getting up with you before you leave - let's get it in! Muah!

Anonymous said...

LOL - I stumbled onto your site by accident yet felt a certain symmetry when reading your post...

I am leaving the US this month to return to the UK after 9+ years residing here and also (possibly) closing my blog..

I too have been contacted (and in most cases bumped into) people from my past that I haven't seen in YEARS!!! I think it's a good sign to move on.... It's been great to see these people and let them know I'm leaving (vis-a-vis), but it feels like I'm closing a chapter of my life, and therefore making way for a whole new one to grow!! I'm strangely nervous, scared and excited all at the same time!

Georgia Peach said...

Thanks everyone for the comments. I'll see how things go with school - I'm not even sure I'll have time to blog so often once classes get started, but maybe I'll start a new blog about my adventures in moving to another country or something.

Clare - I'll have to check your blog out. Have a fantastic move back and maybe you should consider re-positioning your blog too? My move also feels similar to yours - that I'm closing a chapter in my life and YES I feel the same way as you. Nervous, scared, excited and even a little stressed out by all of the things I have to get done to make my move.

I have faith that things will work themselves out and everything will be fine. I just have to get to a point where I feel like all of my loose ends are taken care of...I hope to get to this place as quickly as possible.


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Keep on writing and sharing!

Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!

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