tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630908260439894115.post4353174588820603130..comments2023-07-28T09:41:09.701-04:00Comments on Unrequired Love? A chronicle of my dating adventures on the quest to find love: The opposite of loveGeorgia Peachhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02512812467528547952noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630908260439894115.post-70550021654148077782009-05-31T20:20:48.864-04:002009-05-31T20:20:48.864-04:00Cameron - thanks for the comments. I agree with w...Cameron - thanks for the comments. I agree with what you said and I hope eventually I'll find someone worth it (soon).Georgia Peachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02512812467528547952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630908260439894115.post-66500973667376655352009-05-28T01:09:15.690-04:002009-05-28T01:09:15.690-04:00Looking for short term or long term relationship t...Looking for short term or long term relationship to the opposite sex you must be trust yourself and ask anything about her/him. Make sure you love him/her when it comes to relationship. You may stick to one person and understand her or him vice versa. Show your feelings, give your time so that your relationship will last. When it comes to relationship, age doesn’t matter but if its up to you if you fight your love/feelings to her or him.Cameron Sharpehttp://cameronbsharpe.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630908260439894115.post-38026913780730755692009-05-07T12:24:00.000-04:002009-05-07T12:24:00.000-04:00Brooke - Just read your comments and I do agree wi...Brooke - Just read your comments and I do agree with both you and LN that you have to take care of yourself first before you're able to give fully of yourself to another person. Also agree wholeheartedly with the characteristics you give love. All very true!Georgia Peachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02512812467528547952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630908260439894115.post-11266469197205234372009-05-07T12:01:00.000-04:002009-05-07T12:01:00.000-04:00Kendia - don't give up. I do believe it's out the...Kendia - don't give up. I do believe it's out there (although I do have some days where I'm like F this). <br /><br />LN- it's interesting that you say that hate is the opposite. But wouldn't you say that real love is about being less selfish? If you never get to that point where you're willing to make a concession for your loved one then is it really truly love?Georgia Peachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02512812467528547952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630908260439894115.post-39732960238033204942009-05-07T11:57:00.000-04:002009-05-07T11:57:00.000-04:00Man, can I relate. I do think the idea of the oppo...Man, can I relate. I do think the idea of the opposite of love is selfishness, it's the inability to let go of self and right now, like you, I've yet to meet someone that's worth relinquishing that idea. Unfortunately the longer it takes the more I feel like giving up altogether.Kendianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630908260439894115.post-38251588018803155612009-05-07T11:01:00.000-04:002009-05-07T11:01:00.000-04:00This is interesting, because I always heard that t...This is interesting, because I always heard that the opposite of love is indifference, which actually makes more sense to me. I agree that in order to hate someone, you have to have some sort of passion/feeling for them. Only people you love can affect you that way to the point where you HATE them. But when you could care less what a person does, where they are, what they're doing - basically if they dropped off the planet and you didn't notice - then that's indifference - and THAT to me means you don't love them. <br /><br />I think it depends on what your definition of "selfish" is. Being selfish to me has a perjorative connotation only if you define it that way - to be concerned EXCLUSIVELY with oneself. By that definition, I feel that anyone who is TRULY only concerned EXCLUSIVELY with themselve without regard for others doesn't really WANT to be in a relationship. <br /><br />I agree with Ant that you have to love and take care of yourself before you can love and take care of someone else. But to me, that's not being selfish, it's being self aware. Self realized, self aware, self respecting people can stand in the sun without casting a shadow...meaning just because you love yourself and allow yourself to shine doesn't mean you diminish anyone else and that your love for them doesn't exist. <br /><br />It's a tight rope walk, but you can you can't be truly happy without any sense of stability in one's self. We lose balance when we give up too much of ourselves for the sake of loving someone else...and that shouldn't be the case. You moving to Belgium doesn't mean you love yoru family any less simply because they want you to stay. It means that you recognize and are following the thread of who you are. <br /><br />Love is many things, but it's not selfish. Love is allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Love is receiving love openly. Love is giving and loving again despite the pain you've endured. Love is being compassionate instead of being judgmental. Love is revealing yourself and allowing people to see you for who you truly are. Love is forgiveness. Love is a verb: it's something you do. Love is the willing sacrifice of SOME PART of yourself - not ALL of yourself. Love is a desire and willingness to be a part of something greater than yourself. Love is a Divine act. God is love. And since God is within us all, we have to love ourselves first in order to find that place that makes us able love someone else. Only through having a close emotional, spiritual bond with ourselves will the subtle gravity of that love draw the love we want to us.<br /><br />(sorry, got carried away - great topic!)Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630908260439894115.post-35190443450323221762009-05-07T09:54:00.000-04:002009-05-07T09:54:00.000-04:00I will say this comment knowing full well that I h...I will say this comment knowing full well that I have not read this woman's book. I totally disagree about selfishness being the opposite of Love. <br /><br />Hate is very strong word that gets overused. When you really love someone then you have the ability to hate them. I am not trying to corny here but, love and hate are on the opposite sides of the same coin.<br /><br />I don’t think that if u like someone a little bit you can end up hating them. If, I just liked you a little bit...and then I change my mind and didn’t like you, then I probably would not care enough to hate you.<br /><br />Being selfish is not always a good thing, but it necessary. We all need to be a somewhat selfish in life to survive. Sacrifice is a big part of being in love. There is no way around that. However, love does not mean selflessness. You need to love yourself before you love anyone else. So again, being selfish is not always bad; you have to be willing to sacrifice when the time is right.Anthony Oterohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05818411014851299966noreply@blogger.com